Random Acts of Kindness Day

There’s an official day for everything now. National Chocolate Chip Day, National Cold Cuts Day, Marching Music Day, the list goes on and on. Today is Random Acts of Kindness Day which should be an official day, everyday.

We talk about the importance of being kind with J very often. It’s important for him to be kind to his sister, his friends at school and our family dog. He’s so sweet and considerate that this comes pretty naturally to him. It’s amazing when we watch him do things for others without any prompting.

The world is a scary place and I don’t think there’s a question that more kindness is needed. If we can keep teaching our children kindness, than maybe as time goes on, the kindness will push the scary out.

Do something kind today and then practice it everyday. Do it for a friend, a family member, an animal or a complete stranger. Treating others the way you wish to be treated is the golden rule after all.

And now, a favorite video in this household, Tori Kelly sings “Try a Little Kindness” with the Sesame Street gang:

18 in 45

Yesterday’s shooting at Majory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida became the 18th school shooting this year. We’re only 45 day into this year.

On April 20, 1999, there was a school shooting at Columbine High School in Columbine, Colorado. I was a junior in high school across the country in New York. This was before social media but I did have a beeper, which provided news headlines.

I was in social studies class when my beeper started buzzing. It continued over and over and although I glanced at it when I could, I didn’t really know what was going on until later in the day.

Once I got home, I learned that two students went to their school where they murdered 12 fellow students, 1 teacher, injured many more and instilled fear in everyone. That fear carried across the country.

Being in high school, it was a wake up call that anything could happen anywhere. My library was at the front of the school. If you went through the main entrance, you passed the library. I don’t think I told anyone at the time, but from the day we learned about Columbine forward, there was always a chill that went through me as I passed by the library. A nervousness of “what if it happens here?” A sadness for what those students went through. An anger for the new fear we were all living in. I’m sure I wasn’t the only one more on edge after that day.

This was a time before social media. We learned about things in a more delayed sense than we do now. We had to wait for the news to relay information. In 2018, we learn about things instantly. Yesterday, students were tweeting, snap chatting, texting and Facebooking their friends and family to tell them that there was a shooter in their school. No one should ever have to see messages like that.

Now we are 45 days into 2018 and there have been 18 school shootings and too many lives lost. I was listening to the radio this morning and the DJ lives in South Florida. His son attends a different school and asked him what he should do if it happens to him, does he run or does he hide? The DJ said he never thought he would have to answer a question like that. Why is this the new normal? There are shootings that have happened where 1 or 2 students have been killed that barely get any news coverage. One school shooting should have been too many. Columbine should have made such a difference in our society that kids wouldn’t be afraid to go to school, teachers wouldn’t need a plan in place for hiding their students if there was an active shooter and parents wouldn’t have to worry about receiving a message that their son or daughter is in danger.

This has become such a political issue. Why is there a debate over keeping our kids safe? There is literally nothing being done over and over. Everyone is becoming desensitized except those that live through it. There were students in Parkland yesterday tweeting from where they were hiding and receiving messages back from others that had “lived through it” providing support. Kids are providing other kids support about surviving a school shooting. This should be a bigger issue. 17 lives were taken yesterday. Instead of celebrating love on Valentine’s Day, 17 sets of parents have to go through something no parent should ever have to go through.

I don’t care about political backgrounds, I care about being a human being. In America, we should be keeping our kids safe and everyone safe. No one should be afraid to go to school, church or a concert. We should do better and be better as a country.

Lawmakers need to put politics aside, blaming others aside and as a human, work to protect other humans. Thoughts and prayers are nice, but they don’t fix a horrible ongoing national issue.

Hard Work Pays Off

J is 3 1/2 and the hardest working person I know.

This week was his first real sessions of OT. Last week he met his therapist, we talked and got him comfortable with his new surroundings, but the real work started this past Monday and Wednesday. He did great!

We weren’t sure how he would feel about going back into the gym with just his therapist while I waited in the waiting room. Even as I tried to prep him for it, he said he wanted me with him. That would have been fine as we knew there may need to be an adjustment period. That feeling didn’t last. As soon as he saw his therapist, he was so excited and walked back with her. Luckily, he wanted to do the same the second time around.

On Monday, he was wiped out after his session! He was doing a lot of work on his stomach while on the swing and I think he finally met his match as to what can tire him out. I also noticed when we got home, including after his nap, he seemed a little off. A little cranky. Acting out a bit. The change in routine, a change in people and location and a half hour of sensory input, it would be naive not to expect some personality changes. OT will definitely be a lot more work than speech. He’s going to be challenged in ways he won’t like while on his path in figuring out what will help him in the bigger picture.

If anyone it up for it, it’s him. He works so hard every single day and doesn’t even realize it. He pushes through, gets excited and succeeds. We can all take a lesson from him. Keep your head in the game and hard work will pay off!

How Do You Stay Organized?

Life is chaos! Family, work, friends, playdates, errands…the list goes on!

My husband and I always talk about (and slightly dread) the days when extracurricular activities are introduced. We feel like we never have time as it is, we know at that point it’ll be nuts!

With the kiddos at 3 and 1, I already feel pulled in different directions. To all the more experienced parents, I know what you’re saying. When I look back, I these days willIMG_8424.jpg seem easy.

For some, technology definitely makes things a lot more convenient. My husband uses his iPhone and google calendar to keep track of his day to day. When I worked in an office, I was a post-it queen! Being a SAHM, I definitely feel busier than ever. I like to see all our plans written out on a monthly calendar. I’m old school that way so I opt for a good ol’ fashioned organizer. It helps me plan the weeks and months out and get a good view of the whole picture.

Moving forward, I foresee a big family calendar in the kitchen so we can all keep better track of our daily life.

How do you stay organized?

 

What’s That Sound?

In another life, I worked at an exhibit doing Experiential Marketing. As a way to interact with our kid visitors, we had a “guess the sound” game.

There were pictures of different items and about 6 cans with an item per can. The children had to shake the cans and guess which picture matched the sound. They sat there and played over and over.

Cut to 12+ years later and one of J’s favorite shows is Sid the Science Kid on PBS. They did an episode all about sound and I decided to recreate the game for him!

I picked up a few things from the Dollar Store; coffee cups, paper clips and toothpicks. I combined them with some items I had around the house and boom! A new activity is born and he loves playing it!

My version is definitely a lot more basic than the one we had in the exhibit, but it works. I’m definitely not crafty, but I do find a few easy  activities on Instagram or Pinterest from time to time. I’ll either copy what I see or it’ll make me think of something else I could do.

Being a parent definitely means being more creative.

Not Always a Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday to YOU

Happy Birthday to YOU

Happy Birthday Dear (Insert your name)

Happy Birthday to YOU!

Now make a wish and blow out the candles!

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This is normally a joyous song! Family and friends get together and honor the birthday recipient.

For J, it is anything but joyous! Don’t get me wrong-he likes the song and can sing it. What he hates is to hear a group of people singing it.

A couple of years ago, we were at my Great Uncle’s 95th party. While everyone was singing and celebrating, J was screaming and crying. This was before I even knew of Sensory Processing.

This happens anytime a group sings Happy Birthday. Or when a group of people cheers their glasses. Or if too many people say YAY! It’s all too overwhelming for J.

Recently, it was my daughter’s 1st birthday. We had a lot of people at the house and although he wasn’t upset, J was definitely extra hyper. I think he was trying to process so many people in his house all at once. Before we were going to sing Happy Birthday and even though I would’ve loved to have him there, I told him what was about to happen and gave him the option to not be in the room if he wasn’t comfortable. He took grandpa downstairs to the playroom and we sang to his sister.

At the end of the song, J came back upstairs crying. While downstairs, he had gone into his playhouse, closed the door and the windows as if to hide out. My dad told me that by the end of the song he was crying. Once I got him calm, he said he wanted to blow out candles too. So I relit one for him, told him to make a wish and he blew out his own candle. Within a few minutes he was back to the party.

Situations like this isn’t just a 3 year old having a tantrum. And if this was the only thing he did that didn’t seem right, I might not think anything of it. But when you combine it with other triggers we’ve noticed, it’s hard to dispute that Sensory Processing seems to be the culprit.

 

 

Day 1 in the Books!

Today was our first day of Occupational Therapy. I’d call it a success since J is looking forward to going back on Monday!

It was a bit of a bumpy start. We walked into the waiting room, where PJ Masks was playing and I just so happen to have his PJ Masks sippy cup with me. A perfect match! But I digress. Once we turned the corner, he saw a couple of people waiting and froze. He tried to get back out the door and said he wanted to go home. With some coaxing, I got him to sit on my lap and eventually started playing games on my phone to try to shake the nervousness. His therapist came out, introduced herself and asked if he wanted to go back to play. Since it’s his first day, I went back with him. Luckily, once he saw the gym, he was all in. He played with the swing, tunnel, puzzles, putty, magnetic letters (his favorite) and the trampoline. I went over some of my concerns and filled out paperwork.

Today was all about introductions, learning more and most importantly getting J comfortable with his new surroundings. Much like speech therapy, to J, it’s having fun with someone one on one.

I look forward to his progress as time goes on and coming up with new ways to prevent or calm his triggers.

Is This a Real Thing?

I’ve mentioned before that one of the reasons I started this was because of the other blogs and articles I had read that helped me. Maybe my story might help another parent going through a similar experience!

Facebook groups have also helped. A community of parents asking questions, telling stories and sharing their experiences. There was a discussion one day as to how others react to learning about Sensory Processing. One person shared that her husband initially hadn’t even wanted their child evaluated. Others talked about their parents telling them that they just don’t discipline well enough. The kids get away with too much. Have too much. Some other family members and even doctors just didn’t believe it was a real thing.

Yet those parents that trusted their gut, got their kids the extra help they needed, had a much better quality of life. They were able to predict and most times prevent triggers. They now know what can calm their child. What their mind and body need to properly process information and self regulate in those disorganized situations. That mommy (or daddy) gut will never steer you wrong.

In ‘The Out-of-Sync Child,’  it states that research regarding Sensory Processing has been going on since the 50’s, even though most of us never heard about it. Much of the cause seems to be genetic, but there is still more research being done. I know when I was younger you never heard about this, but you also never heard much about food allergies. With the internet and especially social media, I think there an inundation of information regarding varying issues.

Again, because a child is “out-of-sync” doesn’t mean there is something wrong. It just means they need a little extra help going through the motions of daily activities.

Click here to read my blog What Is Sensory Processing, which includes even more reference links.

And don’t forget parents: Trust Your Gut!

A Little More Waiting

Today was supposed to be J’s first day of Occupational Therapy. However, just as we were getting ready to leave, his therapist called and said she had to go pick up her son from school because he was sick.

As a mom, of course I understand! I just got over a week and a half of a sick cycle in my house. Can’t be helped!

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The other side of me was disappointed because I was really looking forward to today. I had prepped J with the daily agenda and was looking forward to kicking off this journey!

But this journey will just have to wait two more days.

In the meantime, I have a little more time to get questions together and have all the information prepped to ensure J gets the best out of this experience!

It’s the Final Countdown

What a week it’s been!

Baby J’s sickness developed into a virus with a new symptom everyday! A few trips to the doctor and a week later, she’s finally feeling better!

Big J had a snow day from school on Tuesday and was back in the grind on Thursday. I’m so happy he loves going to school…I’m sure one day he won’t!

It’s the Final Countdown to OT! We start on Monday! With everything going on lately, Itenor haven’t even had time to think about it too much. I definitely want to write down some questions and get him ready for the addition to his routine. Due to the timing availability of OT, we have to rearrange our Speech Therapy schedule. With J so comfortable with his awesome speech therapist, it’s easy to make adjustments without it affecting him.

I need to catch up on my reading of The Out-of-Sync Child and gear up for Monday! I’ll be sure to keep you all in the loop with our new journey!