I’m going to be honest. I’ve been writing a few blogs that I was planning on releasing, with a set schedule in mind in order to get back into the blogging game. However, this week the CDC and AAP released an update to their milestone guidelines and I thought, how could I not discuss this current news item?

If you’re new here, please know that I am just a mom and my opinions are coming strictly from that perspective. My son had an expressive speech delay and didn’t talk until two and a half. You can read more about that here. At three, we had him evaluated by an Occupational Therapist for Sensory Processing Disorder. I discussed that in another previous blog: ‘When Is It Empathy and When is it Sensory?’ All this to reiterate that I’m speaking strictly as a mom that has dealt with delays in developmental milestones.

The goal of the CDC and AAP is to help catch developmental delays, as well as Autism, earlier. But as any parent knows, nothing is one size fits all when it comes to kids.

When we were starting to question our son’s speech delay, everyone had an opinion, with the best intentions of course. We heard “oh he’s fine, just give him time” or “so and so didn’t talk until 3, he’s fiiiiine” and of course “he’s perfect, you have nothing to worry about!” As first time parents, our guts were saying one thing but everyone around us was saying another. When he turned 2 in June, his doctor mentioned we could look into having him evaluated or give him a few months to see if it just clicks one day. We gave him two months and decided to go with the evaluation.

On the flip side, our daughter said “Banana” which sounded like “Ah-na-naaaa” as her first word, at 12 months old. From that moment on, she was off and running with talking.

Our son walked at 14 months, where our daughter walked closer to 18 months. Two kids, from the same house, hitting milestones at different times. No one child is the same and they will all develop at different times.

The guidelines are just that and shouldn’t be something that parents feel have to be followed exactly. The updates have certain milestones pushed back, with others pushed ahead. I’m sure doctors, speech therapists, occupational therapists and physical therapists all have their opinions. Here is the one thing I know for sure: trust your gut!

The exact reason I started this blog was to share our experience in hopes of helping others while focusing on that gut feeling. It’s the feeling you have as a parent, because only you know your child best. For me, I refer to it as my “MomSense.” If you are working with a pediatrician that you feel is a good fit for your family, will listen to your concerns and take them seriously, offers advice without being pushy and will care for your child with good bedside manner all while trusting your gut, you and your child will be fine.

You are the number one advocate for your child always. If you feel your child might have a delay, the sooner you have them evaluated, the sooner they have tools in their toolbox to get them through the day to day. Walking, talking, crawling, stacking blocks and so many other things can be easily taken for granted. Family, friends and societal stigmas (which shouldn’t exist but unfortunately do) can sometimes get in the way of what you know to be true.

With these new guidelines, or any others, talk to your doctor and trust your gut. It will not steer you in the wrong direction.

You can read the updates to the Milestone Guidelines, by clicking here.